{"id":177817,"date":"2025-06-12T07:33:11","date_gmt":"2025-06-12T07:33:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/177817\/"},"modified":"2025-06-12T07:33:11","modified_gmt":"2025-06-12T07:33:11","slug":"her-roommate-is-unemployed-and-doesnt-pay-rent-and-also-says-she-cant-work-twistedsifter","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/177817\/","title":{"rendered":"Her Roommate Is Unemployed And Doesn\u2019t Pay Rent, And Also Says She Can\u2019t Work \u00bb TwistedSifter"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Pexels\/Reddit<\/p>\n

Life is hard and we all have a breaking point<\/a> where we explode almost involuntarily.<\/p>\n

See where that point hit with these two people.<\/p>\n

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I have been living with my roommate \u201cK\u201d for about 2 years. We\u2019ve always gotten along well until recently. K struggles with severe depression and anxiety, which I\u2019ve always been supportive of.<\/p>\n

Last month, K lost her job and has been spending most days in bed. I\u2019ve been covering her portion of rent\/utilities (about $800\/month) since then, which is stretching me super thin. I\u2019ve gently brought up job hunting, but she says she\u2019s \u201cnot in the headspace\u201d for it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

So she was already on thin ice, but then this happened.<\/p>\n

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Yesterday, I came home from my 12-hour nursing shift to find K had invited 6 friends over. There were empty wine bottles everywhere, food all over the couch (that I just paid to clean) and they were watching MY Netflix account on MY TV that I bought.<\/p>\n

I absolutely lost it. I told everyone they needed to leave immediately and then I told K that she had 2 weeks to either start contributing financially or find somewhere else to live.<\/p>\n

She burst into tears saying I was being \u201cableist\u201d and that her mental health makes it impossible for her to work right now.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

The drama keeps snowballing.<\/p>\n

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She posted about it on social media saying I\u2019m discriminating against her disability and now mutual friends are blowing up my phone.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

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Some are saying I\u2019m being cruel to someone vulnerable, while others say I\u2019m being taken advantage of.<\/p>\n

I feel terrible because I know depression is real, but I\u2019m working 60+ hours a week just to keep us afloat while she\u2019s hosting wine nights?<\/p>\n

I told her I\u2019d help her find resources and therapy options, but I can\u2019t be her free ride anymore.<\/p>\n

AITA for threatening to kick out my depressed roommate if she doesn\u2019t contribute?<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Here is what people are saying.<\/p>\n

I would require her to prove she is trying and give her a deadline.<\/p>\n

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That\u2019s a bit harsh.<\/p>\n

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That\u2019s what I\u2019m wondering.<\/p>\n

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Probably. It\u2019s so easy to criticize.<\/p>\n

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She definitely needs treatment.<\/p>\n

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There\u2019s a right way and a wrong way.<\/p>\n

If you liked that post, check out this story about a customer who insists that their credit card works, and finds out that isn\u2019t the case<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Pexels\/Reddit Life is hard and we all have a breaking point where we explode almost involuntarily. See where…\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":177818,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4317],"tags":[8725,73337,73338,105,218,8726,2511,17649,1067,16,73339,15],"class_list":{"0":"post-177817","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-mental-health","8":"tag-aita","9":"tag-apartment-living","10":"tag-bad-roommate","11":"tag-health","12":"tag-mental-health","13":"tag-picture","14":"tag-reddit","15":"tag-rent","16":"tag-top","17":"tag-uk","18":"tag-unemployed","19":"tag-united-kingdom"},"share_on_mastodon":{"url":"https:\/\/pubeurope.com\/@uk\/114669237547435728","error":""},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/177817","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=177817"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/177817\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/177818"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=177817"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=177817"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=177817"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}