{"id":22999,"date":"2025-04-15T21:15:19","date_gmt":"2025-04-15T21:15:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/22999\/"},"modified":"2025-04-15T21:15:19","modified_gmt":"2025-04-15T21:15:19","slug":"when-you-destigmatise-failure-it-loses-its-power-to-harm-you-and-six-other-lessons-from-self-help-guru-elizabeth-day","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/22999\/","title":{"rendered":"\u2018When you destigmatise failure, it loses its power to harm you\u2019 \u2013 and six other lessons from self-help guru Elizabeth Day"},"content":{"rendered":"

Elizabeth Day, bestselling author, podcast host and co-host of Sky Arts Book Club Live, is known for her clear-sighted advice. Thanks to her podcast How To Fail, she\u2019s spent hours talking to leaders in their fields about their failures and what they\u2019ve learned from them. Also drawing from her own life experiences \u2013 divorce, fertility issues, career knock-backs \u2013 she\u2019s distilled all this wisdom into several bestselling books. Each is full of gems, as is her fiction, but we’ve picked our favourite piece of advice from each. <\/p>\n

Related StoryHow To Fail <\/p>\n

Inspired by her podcast<\/a> of the same name, Day\u2019s book is an exploration of failure as a concept as well as a memoir of all the things that haven\u2019t gone right in her own life. Comforting, uplifting and filled with wisdom that we could all benefit from, this book is a true gem.<\/p>\n

Life lesson:<\/strong> \u2018If you can remove your ego from a process, then there really isn\u2019t any difference between success and failure. They\u2019re just both parts of a process.\u2019<\/p>\n

Fourth Estate How to Fail by Elizabeth Day<\/p>\n

\"How<\/a>Failosophy: A Handbook For When Things Go Wrong<\/p>\n

Day\u2019s follow-up to her bestselling book How To Fail is a more practical guide, in which she shares the seven principles she\u2019s learned from all the conversations she\u2019s had with guests on her podcast, and from her own life. This is a book to keep at your bedside, ready to dip into when you need it. <\/p>\n

Life lesson: <\/strong>\u2018Most failures can teach us something meaningful about ourselves if we choose to listen.\u2019<\/p>\n

Fourth Estate Failosophy: A Handbook For When Things Go Wrong by Elizabeth Day<\/p>\n

\"Failosophy:<\/a>Failosophy For Teens<\/p>\n

Aimed at the over-12s, this illustrated book of advice is practical, kind and reassuring. <\/p>\n

Life lesson:<\/strong> \u2018If we don\u2019t live our best lives for ourselves, we start to judge ourselves through other people\u2019s eyes, becoming people-pleasers.\u2019<\/p>\n

Farshore Failosophy for Teens by Elizabeth Day<\/p>\n

\"Failosophy<\/a>Friendaholic: Confessions Of A Friendship Addict <\/p>\n

In her latest non-fiction book, Day turns her attention to friendship. She wrote the book after realising she\u2019d become addicted to friendships, to the point where she was making herself unwell trying to maintain them. For the book, she spoke to experts and looked at the research there is on the subject to examine what it means to be a good friend.<\/p>\n

Life lesson:<\/strong> \u2018A healthy friendship involves reciprocal stretching to accommodate each other\u2019s shifting needs.\u2019<\/p>\n

Friendaholic by Elizabeth Day<\/p>\n

\"Friendaholic<\/a> The Party<\/p>\n

Class, compulsion and culpability are explored in this propulsive thriller, which tells the story of two friends \u2013 wealthy Ben and his best friend Martin \u2014 who meet when Martin wins a scholarship to attend Ben\u2019s public school. Years later, their strained relationship comes to a dramatic climax at Ben\u2019s 40th birthday party.<\/p>\n

Life lesson:<\/strong> \u2018We are so desperate to think ourselves empathetic these days, as if the exercise of tears is proof of our elevated humanity. In truth, our over-emoting is a selfish endeavour. We cry because we want to be seen to cry.\u2019<\/p>\n

Fourth Estate The Party by Elizabeth Day<\/p>\n

\"The<\/a>Magpie<\/p>\n

Jake and Marisa\u2019s newly-in-love bubble is burst when lodger Kate moves in and seems to take an unhealthy interest in their relationship. A clever psychological drama about fertility, rivalry and betrayal \u2013 with a genius twist that genuinely left me reeling.<\/p>\n

Life lesson:<\/strong> \u2018She had mistaken the bubbles of anxiety in her stomach for a simmering romantic passion, wrongly believing that love felt unsettled, like a half-packed suitcase awaiting a trip that never comes.\u2019<\/p>\n

Fourth Estate Magpie by Elizabeth Day<\/p>\n

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