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This story discusses child abuse. If you are a child being abused, or know a child who may be facing abuse, call the Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline at (800) 422-4453, or go to www.childhelphotline.org<\/a>. States often have child abuse hotlines, but if you suspect a child\u2019s life is in imminent danger, call 911.<\/p>\n

If you’ve been on the internet lately, you’ve probably seen the term “narcissist” thrown around. It’s become a common label used to describe toxic traits and behaviors, often in the context of romantic relationships.<\/p>\n

You may think of the classic love-bombing, manipulative cheater or the arrogant, entitled spouse who is always right.<\/p>\n

Another type of relationship that’s often plagued by narcissism is the one between a parent and child. The narcissistic parent trope is often depicted in film, such as Faye Dunaway’s role in “Mommie Dearest,” or the neglectful parents in “Matilda.”<\/p>\n

Narcissistic parents can shape the entire family dynamic and have a lasting impact on a child’s wellbeing. However, children of narcissists may not realize this until they’re struggling with the effects years or decades later.<\/p>\n

How can you tell if a parent was a narcissist? TODAY.com spoke to Ramani Durvasula, Ph.D., clinical psychologist, narcissism expert and author of “It’s Not You,”<\/a> about the telltale signs that a person might’ve been raised by a narcissistic parent or caregiver.<\/p>\n

What Is Narcissism?<\/p>\n

“Narcissism is a personality style or pattern that’s characterized by some pretty set qualities and traits, and you have to have most, if not all, of them to call someone narcissistic,” Durvasula tells TODAY.com.<\/p>\n

These include inflated self-importance, an excessive need for validation and admiration, entitlement, lack of empathy, pathological selfishness and arrogance, Durvasula explains. Narcissists often believe they are “special,” and expect favorable treatment.<\/p>\n

Narcissism exists on a spectrum. Most people will exhibit some narcissistic qualities, to varying degrees, at different points in their lives (i.e. toddlers).<\/p>\n

However, a narcissist has displayed a consistent pattern of these traits and behaviors, often to the extent that it causes problems in their life or for others. In relationships, narcissism can translate into manipulation, invalidation, betrayal or gaslighting<\/a>, Durvasula adds. <\/p>\n

Narcissism Vs. Narcissistic Personality Disorder<\/p>\n

A common misconception is that \u201cnarcissism\u201d is a disorder, says Durvasula. \u201cSaying someone\u2019s narcissistic isn\u2019t diagnosing them. Assuming you\u2019ve paid attention to the patterns, it’s making a comment on their personality,” she adds.<\/p>\n

However, nrcissistic personality disorder is a disorder in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders.<\/p>\n

The DSM-5 defines NPD as a pervasive pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration and lack of empathy, which begin in early adulthood and affect all areas of life, as indicated by meeting at least five out of nine specific criteria, per the Cleveland Clinic.<\/a><\/p>\n

In order to be diagnosed with NPD, you have to be formally evaluated by a psychologist or psychiatrist.\u00a0Bu there’s the problem.<\/p>\n

“A lot of narcissistic people aren’t going to therapy,” Durvasula says. Even if they do, they may not be able to identify narcissistic traits or connect them to problems in their lives.<\/p>\n

As a result, there are many people who meet the criteria but will never be diagnosed with NPD. \u201cThere are also people who have a diagnosis of NPD, and their narcissism isn\u2019t nearly as severe as the many, many people out there who have never been diagnosed.”<\/p>\n

As far as the prevalence of NPD, there is a lack of \u201cgood\u201d data, says Durvasula, but research suggests it affects 1\u20136% of the population. That said, the number of people who have a narcissistic personality type (but not necessarily NPD) is likely much higher.<\/p>\n

Traits of a Narcissist Parent <\/p>\n

When a narcissist becomes a parent or caregiver, these traits can significantly impact how they raise children.<\/p>\n

\u201cThe narcissistic parent often has a poor sense of differentiation from their child. … Their child is an extension of themselves,\u201d says Durvasula. They may view a child’s independence as a threat, and use control and manipulation to maintain dominance. As a result, the child’s needs and emotions are often neglected.<\/p>\n

Common traits among narcissistic parents include: <\/p>\n