{"id":268639,"date":"2025-07-17T06:41:23","date_gmt":"2025-07-17T06:41:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/268639\/"},"modified":"2025-07-17T06:41:23","modified_gmt":"2025-07-17T06:41:23","slug":"princess-diana-tried-to-please-charles-but-felt-being-at-suffocating-balmoral-was-like-living-in-a-victorian-court","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/268639\/","title":{"rendered":"Princess Diana &#8220;Tried to Please Charles&#8221; but Felt Being at &#8220;Suffocating&#8221; Balmoral Was Like &#8220;Living in a Victorian Court&#8221;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">When you buy through links on our articles, Future and its syndication partners may earn a commission.<\/p>\n<p><img alt=\" Prince Charles and Princess Diana on honeymoon at Balmoral standing in the grass along the river. \" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"960\" height=\"960\" decoding=\"async\" data-nimg=\"1\" class=\"rounded-lg\" style=\"color:transparent\" src=\"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/aa90f0dc824645228cc665f0c7806b98.jpeg\"\/><\/p>\n<p>Credit: Getty Images<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">Princess Diana told biographer Andrew Morton how being at <a href=\"https:\/\/www.yahoo.com\/lifestyle\/why-balmoral-especially-important-prince-120611146.html\" data-ylk=\"slk:Balmoral Castle;elm:context_link;itc:0;sec:content-canvas;outcm:mb_qualified_link;_E:mb_qualified_link;ct:story;\" class=\"link  yahoo-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Balmoral Castle<\/a> was her &#8220;worst time,&#8221; yet King Charles\u2014who has always been passionate about <a href=\"https:\/\/www.yahoo.com\/entertainment\/princess-kate-prince-william-spend-194031624.html\" data-ylk=\"slk:summering in Scotland;elm:context_link;itc:0;sec:content-canvas;outcm:mb_qualified_link;_E:mb_qualified_link;ct:story;\" class=\"link  yahoo-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">summering in Scotland<\/a>\u2014seems to thrive there. While discussing Charles and Diana&#8217;s differing approaches to the summer break, Diana&#8217;s former butler, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.yahoo.com\/entertainment\/articles\/exclusive-princess-dianas-former-butler-173203322.html\" data-ylk=\"slk:Paul Burrell;elm:context_link;itc:0;sec:content-canvas;outcm:mb_qualified_link;_E:mb_qualified_link;ct:story;\" class=\"link  yahoo-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Paul Burrell<\/a>, tells Marie Claire that the late royal &#8220;found it very hard&#8221; to find her place at <a href=\"https:\/\/www.yahoo.com\/news\/inside-king-charless-special-personal-170647990.html\" data-ylk=\"slk:Balmoral;elm:context_link;itc:0;sec:content-canvas;outcm:mb_qualified_link;_E:mb_qualified_link;ct:story;\" class=\"link  yahoo-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Balmoral<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">&#8220;Diana tried to please Charles, so her times at Balmoral were to please him,&#8221; Burrell, speaking on behalf of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.casino.org\/us\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" data-ylk=\"slk:Casino.org;elm:context_link;itc:0;sec:content-canvas\" class=\"link \">Casino.org<\/a>, shares. &#8220;She wanted to fit in, she wanted to be loved, she wanted to be accepted, and that was all part of that acceptance. &#8220;<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">However, the former butler notes that her approach came at &#8220;a cost because the royals, they&#8217;re a very difficult lot at times, and they&#8217;re all individual personalities, all huge egos, all bouncing around in the same place.&#8221; While Diana &#8220;tried to make friends and come to terms with&#8221; life at the Royal Family&#8217;s <a href=\"https:\/\/www.yahoo.com\/entertainment\/queen-elizabeth-hilariously-told-tourists-192059781.html\" data-ylk=\"slk:Scottish retreat;elm:context_link;itc:0;sec:content-canvas;outcm:mb_qualified_link;_E:mb_qualified_link;ct:story;\" class=\"link  yahoo-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Scottish retreat<\/a>, Burrell says, &#8220;I think from day one, she realized that that place was so full of ghosts from the past that she could never fit in as a modern woman. She could never fit into that archaic world.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><img alt=\"Princess Diana wearing a pink sweater and Prince Charles posing on a bench in Balmoral, Scotland\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"960\" height=\"641\" decoding=\"async\" data-nimg=\"1\" class=\"rounded-lg\" style=\"color:transparent\" src=\"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/c4c49edbf8db345378d8b387fdc01501.jpeg\"\/><\/p>\n<p>Diana and Charles visited Balmoral ahead of their 1981 wedding. | Credit: Getty Images<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">The former butler, who worked for both Diana and Queen Elizabeth during his royal career, shares that the late princess wasn&#8217;t a fan of many of the Royal Family&#8217;s Scottish traditions\u2014citing one <a href=\"https:\/\/www.yahoo.com\/news\/princess-kate-put-her-foot-182023172.html\" data-ylk=\"slk:hunting ritual;elm:context_link;itc:0;sec:content-canvas;outcm:mb_qualified_link;_E:mb_qualified_link;ct:story;\" class=\"link  yahoo-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">hunting ritual<\/a> that Princess Kate reportedly has refused to let her children take part in today.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">&#8220;I mean, going onto the hillside and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.yahoo.com\/entertainment\/articles\/centuries-old-ritual-prince-george-175123677.html\" data-ylk=\"slk:killing a majestic beast;elm:context_link;itc:0;sec:content-canvas;outcm:mb_qualified_link;_E:mb_qualified_link;ct:story;\" class=\"link  yahoo-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">killing a majestic beast<\/a>, for instance, stalking, and then being smeared with its blood and having to come back to the castle blooded for the first time. She thought that was like something from a Victorian novel,&#8221; Burrell recalls. &#8220;She didn&#8217;t consider it to be part of this world. And so, Diana considered Balmoral to be stuck in the past, in a world that didn&#8217;t exist anymore, and she wasn&#8217;t that person.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">Princess Diana, who was a passionate campaigner for charities, felt that life at Balmoral was out of touch with the issues she faced on a daily basis, he continues. &#8220;She lived in the real world,&#8221; Burrell says. &#8220;She lived in a world with homelessness, HIV and AIDS, and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.yahoo.com\/entertainment\/prince-harry-says-keeping-princess-012806870.html\" data-ylk=\"slk:landmines;elm:context_link;itc:0;sec:content-canvas;outcm:mb_qualified_link;_E:mb_qualified_link;ct:story;\" class=\"link  yahoo-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">landmines<\/a>. They didn&#8217;t fit into the walls of Balmoral Castle.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><img alt=\"Princess Diana and Prince Charles posing on rocks by the river at Balmoral Castle\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"960\" height=\"1400\" decoding=\"async\" data-nimg=\"1\" class=\"rounded-lg\" style=\"color:transparent\" src=\"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/4764dd5ebb6190d4565f671dae50ed12.jpeg\"\/><\/p>\n<p>Princess Diana and Prince Charles stayed at Balmoral during part of their honeymoon. | Credit: Getty Images<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">In addition to the family&#8217;s hunting obsession, Burrell says that visiting Balmoral &#8220;is structured around routines&#8221; that &#8220;have never changed since Queen Victoria&#8217;s time.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">&#8220;Breakfast is at nine o\u2019clock. If you&#8217;re down at 10, you&#8217;ve missed it,&#8221; he explains. &#8220;Lunch is at 1 o\u2019clock, you&#8217;ve got to be there. Tea is at five o&#8217;clock. You had to be there for a cup of tea. Dinner is at 8:15. Woe betide if you come downstairs dressed in the wrong thing, at the wrong time, for the wrong event, it&#8217;s very, very formal.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">For Diana, who thrived on modernity, it was a &#8220;suffocating&#8221; environment. Burrell notes that &#8220;she could never understand why it wasn&#8217;t more relaxed and informal.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">&#8220;She was suddenly living in a Victorian court, and Diana wanted to live in the real world,&#8221; he continues. &#8220;She wanted to come down for dinner in jeans.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><img alt=\"Princess Diana wearing striped pants standing on rocks with Prince Harry and Prince William at Balmoral\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"960\" height=\"669\" decoding=\"async\" data-nimg=\"1\" class=\"rounded-lg\" style=\"color:transparent\" src=\"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/0f0e2196b8766ad43a587e895d0bbf4d.jpeg\"\/><\/p>\n<p>Princess Diana is seen with Prince Harry and Prince William at Balmoral in August 1987. | Credit: Getty Images<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">&#8220;People from this world don&#8217;t fit into that world. And that&#8217;s why that world will change and is changing,&#8221; Burrell says. When asked who will be sparking that shift, the former butler points to the Prince of Wales.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">&#8220;William is a catalyst for change,&#8221; Burrell says. &#8220;He&#8217;s already planning it now. When I see him on the TV, I see his mind working and thinking, &#8216;Oh, when I&#8217;m King, this is not going to happen.'&#8221;<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">As other royal sources have stated when discussing the Prince of Wales and his <a href=\"https:\/\/www.yahoo.com\/news\/prince-william-planning-radical-departure-152002454.html\" data-ylk=\"slk:future role;elm:context_link;itc:0;sec:content-canvas;outcm:mb_qualified_link;_E:mb_qualified_link;ct:story;\" class=\"link  yahoo-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">future role<\/a>, Burrell points out that some of the &#8220;pomp and pageantry and excess will not happen when William is King,&#8221; noting, &#8220;He will be the people&#8217;s King.&#8221;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"When you buy through links on our articles, Future and its syndication partners may earn a commission. 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