{"id":282233,"date":"2025-07-22T10:16:15","date_gmt":"2025-07-22T10:16:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/282233\/"},"modified":"2025-07-22T10:16:15","modified_gmt":"2025-07-22T10:16:15","slug":"nicky-became-an-alcoholic-after-her-husband-fell-ill-died-now-a-little-known-75p-pill-has-stopped-her-craving-a-drink","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/282233\/","title":{"rendered":"Nicky became an alcoholic after her husband fell ill &#038; died\u2026 now a little-known 75p pill has stopped her craving a drink"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>WHEN her husband tragically died, Nicky Wake spiralled into a deep depression leaning on alcohol to make it through the day.<\/p>\n<p>To the outside world she appeared like any other grieving wife, but behind closed doors the 54-year-old from Manchester was hiding a dark secret. <\/p>\n<p><a href=\"#\"><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Woman in a pink suit sitting on a couch with a dog.\" height=\"960\" width=\"631\" data-credit=\"Christian Gould Blossom Agency\" data-img=\"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/sun-health-nicky-wake-54-1010605799.jpg\" data-caption=\"Nicky Wake's drinking spiralled when her husband died\"   loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/sun-health-nicky-wake-54-1010605799.jpg\" role=\"img\"\/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>7<\/p>\n<p>Nicky Wake&#8217;s drinking spiralled when her husband diedCredit: Christian Gould Blossom Agency<a href=\"#\"><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"A man and woman sitting at a bar, each holding a beer.\" height=\"960\" width=\"960\" data-credit=\"supplied\" data-img=\"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/sun-health-nicky-wake-54-1010605760.jpg\" data-caption=\"Her husband Andy had a sudden heart attack in 2017, aged 54, which led to a brain injury\"   loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/sun-health-nicky-wake-54-1010605760.jpg\" role=\"img\"\/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>7<\/p>\n<p>Her husband Andy had a sudden heart attack in 2017, aged 54, which led to a brain injuryCredit: supplied<a href=\"#\"><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Woman holding a glass of red wine.\" height=\"720\" width=\"960\" data-credit=\"supplied\" data-img=\"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/sun-health-nicky-wake-54-1010605796.jpg\" data-caption=\"Nicky, 54, reveals she drank daily to cope with the shock and was a functioning alcoholic\"   loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/sun-health-nicky-wake-54-1010605796.jpg\" role=\"img\"\/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>7<\/p>\n<p>Nicky, 54, reveals she drank daily to cope with the shock and was a functioning alcoholicCredit: supplied<\/p>\n<p>While Andy was cared for in a nursing home, Nicky was a functioning alcoholic, taking the couple&#8217;s son to school, running her businesses &#8211; never missing a meeting.<\/p>\n<p>But even suffering a seizure wasn&#8217;t enough to stop her boozing, and after doctors in A&amp;E told her she needed to stop drinking, Nicky bought wine on her way home.<\/p>\n<p>Now, years after saying goodbye to Andy, Nicky tells Sun Health how her darkest days are behind her, thanks to a &#8216;miracle&#8217; pill prescribed on the NHS.<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;Grief drove me to drink&#8217;<\/p>\n<p>I walked past the nurses into intensive care, clutching my Diet Coke bottle.<\/p>\n<p>I was visiting my seriously ill husband in hospital, and as I reached his bed, where he lay unresponsive in a coma, I opened the lid of my drink and took a sip.<\/p>\n<p>But it wasn\u2019t Diet Coke after all. It was a vodka mixer &#8211; my crutch, after I learned Andy would never be the same again.<\/p>\n<p>From there, my <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thesun.co.uk\/topic\/alcohol\/\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\">drinking <\/a>spiralled &#8211; but I wasn\u2019t always like this.<\/p>\n<p>I was a high-flying, successful businesswoman, an events planner and a designer of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thesun.co.uk\/topic\/dating\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">dating<\/a> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thesun.co.uk\/topic\/app\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">apps<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Life was good; I <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thesun.co.uk\/topic\/marriage-2\/\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\">married<\/a> Andy in 2004, two years after we met, and we had our son, Finn, in 2007.<\/p>\n<p>I started drinking young, as many women did in the \u2018ladette\u2019 culture of the late 80s and 90s. But alcohol was never a problem for me; it was just fun.<\/p>\n<p>Are you a grey zone drinker? 6 questions determine if you have a problem with alcohol &amp; what to do before it gets worse<\/p>\n<p>When Andy had a sudden <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thesun.co.uk\/topic\/heart-disease\/\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\">heart attack<\/a> in 2017, aged 54, it changed everything.<\/p>\n<p>It was so sudden, and he was my soulmate.<\/p>\n<p>The heart attack led to a brain injury, and he was kept alive in ICU, but there was really nothing anyone could do.<\/p>\n<p>The consultant took me aside and said gently, \u201cThis will not have a happy ending\u201d, and it was then that my drinking increased.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.thesun.co.uk\/health\/19425031\/alcohol-risk-zone-take-test-get-score\/\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\">I was drinking daily<\/a> to cope with the shock and grief.\u00a0I had always been a heavy drinker up to this point, but never dependent.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>For three years, Andy was cared for in a nursing home, as he needed specialist care.<\/p>\n<p>Meanwhile, I was a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thesun.co.uk\/health\/17094968\/signs-functioning-alcoholic-look-out-loved-ones\/\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\">functioning alcoholic<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>It meant I was still able to do everything expected of me, while on the bottle.<\/p>\n<p>I ploughed on, juggling running my businesses, getting my son to and from <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thesun.co.uk\/topic\/schools\/\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\">school <\/a>and visiting Andy &#8211; always grabbing a bottle on the way home.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019d fly business class and drink, go to meetings and drink. It was acceptable. But I never ever missed a meeting or got my son to school late. No one knew.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"#\"><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Couple enjoying a meal with wine and water overlooking the sea.\" height=\"720\" width=\"960\" data-credit=\"supplied\" data-img=\"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/sun-health-nicky-wake-54-1010605812.jpg\" data-caption=\"Andy was cared for in a nursing home for three years\"   loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/sun-health-nicky-wake-54-1010605812.jpg\" role=\"img\"\/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>7<\/p>\n<p>Andy was cared for in a nursing home for three yearsCredit: supplied<\/p>\n<p>How does acamprosate work?<\/p>\n<p>ACAMPROSATE (brand name Campral) is used to help prevent a relapse in people who have successfully achieved abstinence from alcohol, the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thesun.co.uk\/topic\/nhs\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">NHS<\/a> states.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s usually used in combination with counselling to reduce alcohol craving.<\/p>\n<p>Acamprosate works by affecting levels of a chemical in the brain called gamma-amino-butyric acid (GABA).<\/p>\n<p>GABA is thought to be partly responsible for inducing a craving for alcohol.<\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;re prescribed acamprosate, the course usually starts as soon as you begin withdrawal from alcohol and can last for up to six months.<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;Bad binge&#8217;<\/p>\n<p>Then, in 2020, after a three-year slow decline, Andy passed away at the age of 57.<\/p>\n<p>I had pre-<a href=\"https:\/\/www.thesun.co.uk\/topic\/grief\/\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\">grieved<\/a> for three years as he slowly died, but losing him was still devastating, and I turned to the bottle even more.<\/p>\n<p>After getting my son to school, I&#8217;d start the day with a bottle of wine at breakfast,\u00a0drink another bottle throughout the\u00a0day,\u00a0then a third bottle in the evening.<\/p>\n<p>By 2021, I noticed I could barely walk the length of my street without feeling unwell. But I ignored it.<\/p>\n<p>Then in 2023, after a particularly bad binge, I woke in immense pain and felt so, so unwell. I knew I had to stop drinking, but I couldn\u2019t get through the day without alcohol.<\/p>\n<p>I was already taking mirtazapine for <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thesun.co.uk\/topic\/depression\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">depression<\/a>, so I took two instead of one.<\/p>\n<p>Something happened &#8211; I thought I may have had a seizure &#8211; and I called a friend who took me to A&amp;E.<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"article__quote\">\n<p>I was drinking daily to cope with the shock and grief &#8211; I had only been a heavy drinker up until this point<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>At the hospital, doctors confirmed I\u2019d had a seizure and blamed the mix of alcohol in my system and the double dose of a strong antidepressant.<\/p>\n<p>I was kept in for three days and told I needed to stop drinking. I agreed, but bought <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thesun.co.uk\/topic\/wine\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">wine<\/a> on the way home.<\/p>\n<p>Incredibly, during this time, I had a good relationship with my son.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"#\"><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Woman sitting on a couch holding a mug.\" height=\"640\" width=\"960\" data-credit=\"Christian Gould Blossom Agency\" data-img=\"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/sun-health-nicky-wake-54-1010605764.jpg\" data-caption=\"Nicky checked herself into rehab where she did a 28-day detox, and was recommended acamprosate by a doctor to help her recovery\"   loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/sun-health-nicky-wake-54-1010605764.jpg\" role=\"img\"\/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>7<\/p>\n<p>Nicky checked herself into rehab where she did a 28-day detox, and was recommended acamprosate by a doctor to help her recoveryCredit: Christian Gould Blossom Agency<a href=\"#\"><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Couple enjoying wine in a Ferris wheel gondola.\" height=\"720\" width=\"960\" data-credit=\"supplied\" data-img=\"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/sun-health-nicky-wake-54-1010605807.jpg\" data-caption=\"She says as soon as she took the miracle pill, she didn't drink for weeks as it cut her cravings\"   loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/sun-health-nicky-wake-54-1010605807.jpg\" role=\"img\"\/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>7<\/p>\n<p>She says as soon as she took the miracle pill, she didn&#8217;t drink for weeks as it cut her cravingsCredit: supplied<\/p>\n<p>But in November 2024, a day before my son\u2019s 17th birthday, something in me changed. There was no lightbulb moment or rock bottom. I just felt generally dreadful and thought if I picked up one more glass of booze, I\u2019d be dead.<\/p>\n<p>I told my son I was checking myself into rehab. He hugged me and said, \u201cThat would be the best birthday present ever\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>Luckily, I had private <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thesun.co.uk\/health\/\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\">healthcare<\/a>, which covered my admission to The Priory, where I did a 28-day detox.<\/p>\n<p>It included yoga, meditation, and hours of counselling. It was hard. But I felt cared for and looked after. It was there that a doctor recommended acamprosate to help my recovery.<\/p>\n<p>Acamprosate is a medication for people with alcohol dependence that works by stabilising the brain chemistry, helping reduce cravings and maintain abstinence.<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"article__quote\">\n<p>A doctor recommended acamprosate to help my recovery. Acamprosate is a medication for people with alcohol dependence that works by stabilising the brain chemistry, helping reduce cravings and maintain abstinence<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>I had no idea if it would work for me, but I decided to try, thinking I\u2019d probably swing by a wine shop as I left The Priory.<\/p>\n<p>But I didn\u2019t. I went straight home. I didn\u2019t drink the next day or the next.<\/p>\n<p>Soon, weeks had passed. It was a miracle.<\/p>\n<p>People on <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thesun.co.uk\/topic\/weight-loss-jabs\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">weight loss jabs<\/a> talk about losing this \u2018food noise\u2019 once they start the medication, the relief that they are no longer constantly thinking about their next bite to eat.<\/p>\n<p>And it was the same for me, only with alcohol.<\/p>\n<p>I started with four doses a day, tapering to two, and then coming off at eight months &#8211; and I\u2019m still sober.<\/p>\n<p>The pills were prescribed in the Priory\u00a0and\u00a0by my <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thesun.co.uk\/topic\/gp\/\" rel=\"noopener\" target=\"_blank\">GP <\/a>once I left.<\/p>\n<p>It is recommended by NICE<strong>,\u00a0<\/strong>the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thesun.co.uk\/topic\/nhs\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">NHS<\/a> drug regulator, but only prescribed after a person is successfully withdrawn from alcohol and on a programme.<\/p>\n<p>Sobriety meant that I was able to focus on the development and launch of an app called SoberLove.app, to help sober people date.<\/p>\n<p>So many dates are about drinking, it\u2019s hard to find a sober match.<\/p>\n<p>And amazingly, when I celebrated my 54th birthday recently, there was no wine, no champagne and no <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thesun.co.uk\/topic\/beer\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">beer<\/a>. I left the party sober and joyful.<\/p>\n<p>Acamprosate saved my life. Now, I plan to stay sober in Andy\u2019s honour and for our son.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"#\"><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Woman in red heart dress outdoors.\" height=\"960\" width=\"640\" data-credit=\"supplied\" data-img=\"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/sun-health-nicky-wake-54-1010605778.jpg\" data-caption=\"Nicky credits acamprosate for saving her life and reveals she aims to stay sober in Andy\u2019s honour\"   loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/sun-health-nicky-wake-54-1010605778.jpg\" role=\"img\"\/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>7<\/p>\n<p>Nicky credits acamprosate for saving her life and reveals she aims to stay sober in Andy\u2019s honourCredit: supplied<\/p>\n<p>What to do if you think are an alcoholic<\/p>\n<p>IF you\u2019re struggling with alcohol addiction, the most important thing is to recognise the problem and seek support &#8211; You don\u2019t have to face it alone. <\/p>\n<p><strong>Seek Professional Help<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>GP or Doctor<\/strong> \u2013 A medical professional can assess your situation and provide advice on treatment options.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Therapists or Counsellors<\/strong> \u2013 Talking to an addiction specialist can help address underlying causes and develop coping strategies.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Rehab or Detox Programmes<\/strong> \u2013 If physical dependence is severe, medically supervised detox may be necessary.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>Consider Support Groups<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"WHEN her husband tragically died, Nicky Wake spiralled into a deep depression leaning on alcohol to make it&hellip;\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":282234,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[11],"tags":[785,105,426,302,209,2465,3912,210,211,437,213,16,15],"class_list":{"0":"post-282233","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-health","8":"tag-alcohol","9":"tag-health","10":"tag-health-warnings","11":"tag-heart-disease","12":"tag-longtail","13":"tag-manchester","14":"tag-medicine","15":"tag-mental-health-and-illness","16":"tag-nhs","17":"tag-section-healthnews-health","18":"tag-sun-club","19":"tag-uk","20":"tag-united-kingdom"},"share_on_mastodon":{"url":"https:\/\/pubeurope.com\/@uk\/114896370918291421","error":""},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/282233","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=282233"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/282233\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/282234"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=282233"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=282233"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=282233"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}