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Antony Valori was going through a ‘bad time’ until he acted on a friend’s recommendation\"AntonyAntony feels there is still a stigma around men talking about their feelings(Image: Antony Valori)<\/p>\n

A man says his life was saved after he did the ‘hardest thing he\u2019d ever done’. Antony Valori, 26, Litherland<\/a>, was in a dark place a few years ago.<\/p>\n

Antony had attempted to take his own life but felt unable to share his feelings, fearing that he would be seen as weak. His fortunes began to change when he reluctantly attended a meeting in Liverpool organised by Andy\u2019s Man Club in February 2022.<\/p>\n

Andy\u2019s Man Club is a suicide prevention charity offering free to attend peer-to-peer support groups across the UK and online. Three years on, Antony is now the lead facilitator for Andy\u2019s Man Club branches across the north west.<\/p>\n

Speaking to the ECHO<\/a> about his mental health<\/a>, Andy said: \u201cI was a typical young lad. With men in general but young lads too, we don’t want to admit that we need help or support. We don’t want to be known as being weak.<\/p>\n

\u201cYou feel that you\u2019re not allowed to feel like this or allowed to cry because that’s embarrassing as well. All of those things were going through my head and I was thinking, \u2018I can’t now go into this group and talk about my issues or talk about my problems because it’s not right, we’ve got to be strong as men.\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n

Therefore, it took a lot of courage for him to go to the support group. He said: \u201cI walked through the doors of Andy\u2019s Man Club just over three years ago because I was having a really bad time.<\/p>\n

\"AntonyAntony initially felt embarrassed to come forward(Image: Antony Valori)<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019d previously tried to take my own life. I\u2019ve gone through dark times through my childhood. Then a friend of mine informed me that there was a place called Andy’s Man Club.<\/p>\n

\u201cI went along and it was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. But I knew people were there for similar reasons and it was just a place where you could go and get stuff off your chest, so I went to try it out.\u201d<\/p>\n

However, Antony\u2019s fears were quickly put at ease. He said: \u201dYou’ve got the facilitators who stand outside and make you feel really welcome. The first time I went, one of them put their arm around me and walked me in.<\/p>\n

\u201cYou walk into something that you instantly feel like you’re part of a community. It’s like a brotherhood, another family. A lot of people struggle to talk to their own family, but in this environment you just feel like you can’t talk about anything to these people.<\/p>\n

\u201cBecause it’s people going through similar things and or just struggling in general, it’s just a really safe and non-judgmental space where you can get stuff off your chest. I made up that I went because it genuinely saved my life.\u201d<\/p>\n

Antony was soon approached to become a facilitator at the Crosby<\/a> branch. Now he oversees branches across Merseyside and the north west, including groups in Southport<\/a> and Runcorn.<\/a><\/p>\n

\"AntonyAntony Valori is now the lead facilitator for Andy’s Man Club branches across the north west. (Image: Antony Valori)<\/p>\n

Antony didn\u2019t expect to be in this position but wanted to do what he could to help others in similar positions. He said: \u201cIt was all just because I wanted to help others. If I can help one man, then I’m doing the right thing. I just want other men to know where to go for these services.\u201d<\/p>\n

Antony believes he is in a much better place now thanks to opening up about his feelings. He said: \u201cI’m in a much better place than I was. I still have my struggles, don’t get me wrong. But I’m now in a place where I can vent and talk about those things and I can deal with my issues and my day to day life because I’m talking about it.<\/p>\n

\u201dIf any men are struggling in the Merseyside area, please do reach out, even if it’s not to us. If you do want to come along, I highly recommend it – as I said earlier, it saved my life so hopefully it can save some other lives in our area.\u201d You can find out more about Andy’s Man Club here.<\/a><\/p>\n

Mental health support<\/p>\n

Helplines and support groups<\/strong><\/p>\n

The following are helplines and support networks for people to talk to, mostly listed on the NHS Choices website<\/a><\/p>\n