Ashley Olson
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By Ashley Olson | Phoenix
OPINION — The holiday season is often a time of joy, family and togetherness, but it also can be a period marked by loneliness, grief and emotional complexity.
The season may bring up memories of loved ones who are no longer with us, as well as ambiguous losses such as changes in traditions, financial resources, mobility or lifestyle. It can intensify feelings of absence or highlight what has changed.
These experiences are more common than many realize. As a licensed clinical social worker with more than 15 years of experience, I’ve learned that even small, intentional efforts to connect can make a meaningful difference in well-being. Strengthening emotional well-being often begins with validating feelings rather than pushing them aside.
How seniors can stay connected
• Reach out to loved ones. Scheduling regular video calls or phone conversations allows you to hear a familiar voice. While they can’t replace in-person connections, even brief check-ins serve as a reminder that someone cares.
• Build your social network. Many community centers and senior programs around the Valley host activities and holiday gatherings that provide social engagement. I’ve seen seniors form friendships through bingo, arts and crafts, and other activities offered in our community rooms.
• Make new memories. When old traditions aren’t possible, consider making new ones. Try that new recipe, send handwritten cards or attend a community event — holiday-themed festivities are always crowd-pleasers, and a wonderful way to feel part of the community.
• Find a cause to support. Volunteering can be a powerful antidote to loneliness and a great way to connect to others. Service provides a sense of purpose, connection and joy. Opportunities range from spending time with people to even baking for those without family. Idealist.org is a great resource for finding both virtual and in-person volunteer roles.
• Set healthy boundaries. Many seniors worry about interfering with their adult children’s plans, but communicating your needs is essential. Boundaries are not only about what we don’t want, they are also about sharing what feels good or supportive. Loved ones often won’t know how you want to be included unless you tell them, and boundary-setting is a negotiation that helps honor everyone’s needs.
• Coping with grief or seasonal depression. Grief — both from the loss of loved ones and the loss of traditions or roles — is common during the holidays. If you’re carrying grief, consider making intentional space for it. Give yourself time to look at photos or shed a tear before attending social events. This emotional “containment” can help prevent overwhelming feelings later.
• Talk to a professional. It’s important to reach out for support when feelings of loneliness become overwhelming. Talking to a trusted health care or mental health provider can open the door to coping strategies that help make the season feel brighter. Fortunately, I’ve found that seniors are increasingly willing to express their emotions and talk about their mental health. Telehealth is a great option for those with transportation difficulties.
This season, I encourage seniors and those who care for them to find small moments of connection, whether it’s sharing memories over the phone, attending a local event, giving back to the community or meeting with a health professional.
When we take time to nurture relationships and open our hearts, we are reminded that connection is one of the greatest gifts we can give or receive.
Ashley Olson, LCSW, DSW is a behavioral health specialist in Phoenix. Please submit comments at yourvalley.net/letters or email them to AzOpinions@iniusa.org. We are committed to publishing a wide variety of reader opinions, as long as they meet our Civility Guidelines.