{"id":1003227,"date":"2026-08-15T22:25:38","date_gmt":"2026-08-15T22:25:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/us\/1003227\/"},"modified":"2026-08-15T22:25:38","modified_gmt":"2026-08-15T22:25:38","slug":"nyc-women-share-horror-stories-of-moving-in-with-boyfriends","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/us\/1003227\/","title":{"rendered":"NYC women share horror stories of moving in with boyfriends"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Their exes drove them up the wall \u2014 and out the door.<\/p>\n<p>Women\u2019s horror stories of moving in with their boyfriends were featured in a recent study, which concluded that three in five Americans say cohabitation doomed their relationships.<\/p>\n<p>Amy relocated to Forest Hills, Queens, from Georgia to live with her significant other, but quickly realized romance was out the window.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI thought we\u2019d get our own apartment, explore the city and start our lives together. What I didn\u2019t realize was that I was actually moving in with his parents in Queens,\u201d Amy said in the study compiled by <a href=\"https:\/\/www.sharkninja.com\/discover\/two-become-one.html?\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">SharkNinja<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>A recent study concluded that three in five Americans say cohabitation doomed their relationships. Getty Images\/iStockphoto<\/p>\n<p>It got worse when Amy realized that her beau, Dan, could actually afford his own apartment \u2014 but just didn\u2019t want to leave the nest.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cHe just really wanted to keep living with his parents. He was incredibly lazy, and everyone secretly called him \u2018Dirty Dan\u2019 behind our backs,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cBetween him being a grown man who still acted like a child and me being so far from home, the relationship ultimately didn\u2019t work out.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Amy did strike up an unlikely friendship with her other roommate: his mother.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThe weirdest part is that I actually became incredibly close with his mom. We even got matching tattoos. My current husband, who is very much not Dan, absolutely hates that I have a matching tattoo with my <a href=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/2024\/02\/10\/metro\/shred-your-ex-at-nycs-crushed-heartbreak-bar-on-valentines-day\/\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">ex-boyfriend\u2019s<\/a> mother,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n<p>The survey, which polled 2,000 Americans, found that 51.7 percent cited financial stress as a major source of their <a href=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/2023\/02\/11\/nyc-couples-during-covid-call-it-quits-before-valentines-day\/\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">arguments with their romantic partner-turned-roommate<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Nearly three in four people spoken to for the survey said couples may move in together too quickly. Getty Images\/Westend61<\/p>\n<p>Sarah of the Upper West Side was blindsided when she discovered her man only moved in with her so he could pocket the extra cash he was earning on the side \u2014 while she was paying their rent.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI thought my boyfriend had officially moved in with me. Meanwhile, he was actually trying to get money from his landlord because there was a wasp nest in his apartment,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cHe convinced his landlord, and apparently his super, that he needed to vacate, and somehow this turned into him getting money to stay somewhere else. For about two months, I thought we were starting our life together in New York, and I was paying rent while he was pocketing the extra cash from his apartment.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>More than three in five respondents selected chores or cleaning as a source of conflict when living with a partner. Getty Images<\/p>\n<p>A whopping 45.7 percent of those surveyed said their fights with significant others revolved around household responsibilities and task division.<\/p>\n<p>Raven of the East Village reached her breaking point when she realized that her partner of four years wouldn\u2019t lift a finger around the house after they had finally moved in together. <\/p>\n<p>\u201cHe genuinely believed certain chores were \u2018women\u2019s work,\u2019 while I was also paying all the rent and watching him make zero effort to find a job,\u201d she lamented.<\/p>\n<p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\tStart your day with all you need to know\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/p>\n<p class=\"inline-module__cta\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\tMorning Report delivers the latest news, videos, photos and more.\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/p>\n<p>\t\t\t\t\t\tThanks for signing up!\n\t\t\t\t<\/p>\n<p>She quickly came to the conclusion that the relationship had warped.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI eventually had this horrible realization: \u2018That\u2019s my son, not my partner.\u2019 He knew it, too. I wasn\u2019t looking for a boyfriend I had to parent,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cEventually, I told him it was time to go. I even gave him as much time as he needed to move out. I literally stayed in a hotel for a week while he did so. I was basically raising a grown man. I swear he sent me a gift this Mother\u2019s Day.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>A whopping 54% of Americans polled said they regretted moving in with a partner within the first six months of cohabitation. Getty Images<\/p>\n<p>Another issue that causes domestic disputes is a misalignment of lifestyle and daily routines, 43.4 percent of those polled reported.<\/p>\n<p>Myah of Williamsburg said that her ex\u2019s routine included begging her to return to their apartment after they\u2019d already <a href=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/2025\/02\/01\/lifestyle\/scorned-lovers-getting-revenge-by-naming-nyc-rats-after-toxic-exes\/\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">broken up<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI moved in with my ex three separate times. Every time, we\u2019d live together for a month or two, break up, and I\u2019d start hauling all my stuff out of the apartment. Then, the second I officially moved out and signed a new lease, he\u2019d beg me to come back,\u201d she recalled.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cAnd, like an idiot, I\u2019d move back in. I did this three times before I finally realized we weren\u2019t compatible \u2014 as a couple or as roommates. At this point, I\u2019ve become a chronic NYC illegal subletter. The NYC Girls Roommate Facebook group actually hates to see me post.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Their exes drove them up the wall \u2014 and out the door. 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