{"id":1037228,"date":"2026-09-01T17:33:30","date_gmt":"2026-09-01T17:33:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/us\/1037228\/"},"modified":"2026-09-01T17:33:30","modified_gmt":"2026-09-01T17:33:30","slug":"i-took-a-gap-year-in-my-40s-after-20-years-in-corporate-america","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/us\/1037228\/","title":{"rendered":"I Took a Gap Year in My 40s After 20 Years in Corporate America"},"content":{"rendered":"

In 2023, I stepped back from a demanding, over-20-year career in corporate America<\/a>.<\/p>\n

At the time, I didn’t think of it as a gap year; that was for college kids<\/a> or people going on a retreat somewhere exotic. A friend from the UK informed me that a gap year was exactly what we, two moms in our 40s, had done \u2014 take time off to explore, get to know ourselves, and figure out what’s next, without pay or benefits.<\/p>\n

I started my gap year stressed, lost, and tired<\/strong><\/p>\n

I spent my 20s and 30s trying to have it all \u2014 the family, the career, the success.<\/p>\n

Trying to have it all is exhausting<\/a>. Life had felt like sprinting a marathon for as long as I could remember. I had no idea how tired I was until I stopped working.<\/p>\n

\"Handwritten<\/p>\n

I made a lot of to-do lists during my first few weeks off.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Courtesy of the author<\/p>\n

My initial reaction to taking time off was how to fill it. What new activities would I try? What new places would I visit? I had created a list of 100 things to do and consulted it in my planner every day.<\/p>\n

After a month, I took a break for a few weeks, giving my body and brain a chance to recover. I stopped beginning each day with a to-do list longer than I could accomplish \u2014 a holdover from the corporate life<\/a> I desperately needed to let go of.<\/p>\n

This left me more open to curiosity and to having space for new opportunities. Strangers in coffee shops<\/a> became friends. I had the capacity to say yes to a tap dancing class. I solo-traveled to a book retreat and Disneyland.<\/p>\n

I had to let go of being so financially independent<\/strong><\/p>\n

Growing up, I was surrounded by independent women. My mom and both of my grandmas worked, and I felt the societal pressure to always be able to support myself.<\/p>\n

\"Woman<\/p>\n

Using my final work bonus, I visited Disneyland for the first time during my gap year.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Courtesy of the author<\/p>\n

My gap year was the first time in my adult life that I was financially dependent on someone else<\/a>. Looking back, it seems silly to be worried about relying on my husband, but for the first time in almost 20 years of marriage, I didn’t have a regular paycheck.<\/p>\n

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We examined our finances and realized we had a lot of fat we could trim and still live comfortably. We were shocked by the amount we spent on subscriptions we didn’t use, food delivery, and eating out. I was emotionally spending, especially on clothes, because I was stressed and unhappy at work.<\/p>\n

I made a goal of trying at least one new thing a week<\/strong><\/p>\n

Inspired by a career change<\/a> course I took early on in my gap year, I gave myself a goal of doing one new thing every week.<\/p>\n

I traveled \u2014 visiting Disneyland for the first time and going on a book retreat with authors, aspiring writers, and book lovers. My mom and I took an Alaska cruise, a bucket-list trip for both of us.<\/p>\n

\"Woman<\/p>\n

Tap dancing was new, got me on stage, and was an excellent place to make friends.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Courtesy of the author<\/p>\n

I made time for spontaneity and the unexpected. Like standing in our driveway with my kids and seeing the northern lights for the first time.<\/p>\n

I worked on saying yes to new experiences \u2014 a floating sound bath, trying a cold plunge, and being in a tap performance, dancing onstage for the first time since I was 4. Free classes at the library, searching events online, and asking people for ideas led to trying forest bathing, roller skating, and a holiday sing-along bus tour.<\/p>\n

I had the time to build and nurture friendships. Making friends as an adult, not through work, is hard. Getting out in the world and doing new things meant meeting new people.<\/p>\n

I volunteered with a new friend harvesting corn for a food bank, built relationships with fellow theater parents, and connected with people at the dog park.<\/p>\n

The best was exploring new places and spaces with my kids \u2014 escape rooms, coffee shops, and national parks. My kids say they saw a change in me. I was more relaxed, open, and present \u2014 physically, mentally, and emotionally.<\/p>\n

My priorities shifted, and it helped prepare me for the major life changes to come<\/strong><\/p>\n

Before, I was a working mom determined to have it all, telling myself I had work\/life balance.<\/p>\n

If I’m being honest, I fit life around work. My job often demanded that it came first \u2014 never-ending to-do lists, urgent emails, travel, and always chasing the next promotion. I didn’t have the time or emotional or mental capacity to be present in all the things I was doing. Stepping away helped me realize my priorities had shifted.<\/p>\n

\"Game<\/p>\n

Being a travel writer, I regularly have new experiences with my kids, like competing in a game show battle room.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Courtesy of the author<\/p>\n

I made a career change to become a travel writer. Now I have autonomy and a job that gets me out experiencing new things regularly. Work can be further down the priority list, with self-care, family, and friends coming first.<\/p>\n

In the last six months, my husband retired, my youngest went off to college, and I started a new job as a substitute teacher<\/a>. It’s been a lot, but the curiosity, friendships, and openness to trying new things found in my gap year have been invaluable in navigating all these major life changes.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"In 2023, I stepped back from a demanding, over-20-year career in corporate America. At the time, I didn’t…\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":1037229,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":"","_share_on_mastodon":"0"},"categories":[7],"tags":[36155,189916,43995,1532,142378,8042,18996,2252,27770,3546,9362,783,158,17823,6620,67,132,68,8066],"class_list":["post-1037228","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-technology","tag-coffee-shop","tag-corporate-america","tag-disneyland","tag-friend","tag-gap-year","tag-job","tag-kid","tag-life","tag-mom","tag-people","tag-retreat","tag-space","tag-technology","tag-thing","tag-time","tag-united-states","tag-unitedstates","tag-us","tag-work"],"share_on_mastodon":{"url":"https:\/\/pubeurope.com\/@us\/117196986899121187","error":""},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1037228","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1037228"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1037228\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1037229"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1037228"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1037228"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1037228"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}