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Growing up unheard by your own parents leaves a mark, and for one woman, that mark eventually became a life-threatening heart condition<\/a> she was forced to face largely on her own.<\/p>\n As the youngest of four children, she remembers being brushed off constantly, her health concerns treated as attention-seeking rather than legitimate.<\/p>\n Thanks to that same childhood dismissal, an untreated strep infection soon spiraled into rheumatic fever in adulthood and permanent heart valve damage.<\/p>\n Facing major surgery, she\u2019s chosen not to tell her parents directly, planning instead to let them discover the outcome through a Facebook announcement, mirroring the very communication style that defined her upbringing.<\/p>\n Keep reading for the full story.<\/p>\n I (41F) am the youngest of 4 children.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n She shares that she never had the best relationship with her parents and they\u2019ve always managed to underplay her health concerns.<\/p>\n By the time I came around, my parents didn\u2019t care.<\/p>\n Anytime I told them I was sick or didn\u2019t feel good, my mother would roll her eyes like my existence was a burden and call me a hypochondriac, my father would tell me \u201cit will get better before you get married.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n Her mother appears to care more about attention than empathy.<\/p>\n The last death in our family, I learned about from a Facebook post my mother made, she is the kind of person who loves attention on Facebook.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n Soon, the woman comes down with some concerning health problems.<\/p>\n Recently, I learned I have a heart condition that no longer exists in the USA due to the availability of healthcare.<\/p>\n As a child I got strep throat that went untreated, because it went untreated I developed rheumatic fever. This caused my body to create antibodies to fight off the infection, these antibodies attacked my heart valve, making it defective.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n So she decided she wasn\u2019t going to be forthcoming with her family about this. But she knew a forum that was sure to catch their attention.<\/p>\n Due to the cause of my condition, I became angry at my parents and decided that I wouldn\u2019t tell them about the upcoming procedure. Instead, I plan to make a Facebook post announcing the results of the surgery and let them find out that way.<\/p>\n As the date approaches, I\u2019m starting to feel bad about not telling them.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n Soon she starts to second-guess her plan.<\/p>\n At the same time, I know my mother will start making \u201cpray for my daughter\u201d pity me posts. I don\u2019t want this, because I strongly believe she has no right to play the loving mother when her neglect is the reason I\u2019m about to have heart surgery.<\/p>\n So, AITA for not telling my parents about my upcoming heart surgery?<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n This family sounds crazy dysfunctional.<\/p>\n What did Reddit have to say?<\/p>\n This woman needs some kind of support, even if it\u2019s not from family.<\/p>\n Maybe her careless parents should share a bit of the blame here.<\/p>\n Never Miss a Story<\/p>\n Sign up to get our BEST stories of the week straight to your inbox.<\/p>\n Why not call out her mother directly in the Facebook post?<\/p>\n If you enjoyed this story, check out this post<\/a> about a mom who can\u2019t figure out why her babysitter quit after what she thought was a routine question.<\/p>\n She really owes her parents nothing here.<\/p>\n Growing up getting eye-rolled and called a hypochondriac for legitimate symptoms, then ending up with permanent heart damage because of it isn\u2019t something that\u2019s easy to get over.<\/p>\n Her parent\u2019s negligence is now having real-life impacts on her health, and even now, her family can\u2019t be there to support her in the way she needs.<\/p>\n She doesn\u2019t owe her parents the same closeness they always denied her.<\/p>\n Enjoyed this story? Readers who liked this also read this story<\/a> about a man who offered to buy his parents a house with his lottery winnings, only to find out they think they deserve half of all his winnings. \t\t\t\t\t
Benjamin Cottrell | Assistant Editor, Internet Culture<\/p>\n Benjamin Cottrell is an Assistant Editor and contributing writer at TwistedSifter, specializing in internet culture, viral social dynamics, and the moral complexities of online communities. He brings a highly analytical, editorial voice to his reporting on workplace conflicts, malicious compliance, and interpersonal drama, with a specific focus on nuanced stories that lack an obvious villain.<\/p>\n As a published author of rhetorical criticism, Benjamin leverages his academic background in human communication to dissect and elevate viral social media threads. Instead of simply summarizing events, he provides readers with balanced, deep-dive commentary into why the internet reacts the way it does. In addition to his cultural reporting, he is an experienced fine art photography essayist and video game reviewer.<\/p>\n When he isn\u2019t analyzing the latest viral debates, Benjamin is usually chipping away at his extensive video game backlog, hunting down the best new restaurants, or out exploring the city with a camera in hand.<\/p>\n Connect with Benjamin on Instagram<\/a> and read more of his essays on Substack<\/a>.<\/p>\n \n\t\tCategories: Family & Relationships<\/a>, Life & Drama<\/a>\t\t \t\t\t\t\t\n
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