{"id":420382,"date":"2025-12-02T21:53:23","date_gmt":"2025-12-02T21:53:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/us\/420382\/"},"modified":"2025-12-02T21:53:23","modified_gmt":"2025-12-02T21:53:23","slug":"i-have-a-very-strange-reaction-to-going-down-on-my-wife-i-cant-for-the-life-of-me-figure-out-why","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/us\/420382\/","title":{"rendered":"I have a very strange reaction to going down on my wife. I can’t for the life of me figure out why."},"content":{"rendered":"

How to Do It is Slate\u2019s sex advice column.\u00a0Have a question?\u00a0<\/strong>Send it to Stoya and Rich here.<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0It\u2019s anonymous!<\/p>\n

Dear How to Do It,\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

I am a 47-year-old man married to a 42-year-old woman. My wife and I have a decent sex life. But as in most marriages with children, my sex drive is quite higher than hers. I\u2019d probably be good for two to three times a week where whereas she is good for about two to three times a month.<\/p>\n

One of the things I like to do most is to go down on my wife.<\/p>\n

She doesn\u2019t necessarily want it every time, and so it happens about once a month, but when it does, I inevitably get sick in the ensuing days. Even during the act (usually I spend anywhere from 10 to 20 minutes down there), I often have a reaction where I build up sinus pressure and can get a runny nose. It\u2019s difficult to diagnose sinus infections, and the symptoms usually pass after two to three days, but this last one lasted over a week. Have you ever heard of anything like getting a head cold\/flu\/sinus infection from cunnilingus?<\/p>\n

\u2014Going Down and Getting the Sickness<\/p>\n

Dear Going Down,<\/strong><\/p>\n

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    What you\u2019re describing absolutely is a documented<\/a> phenomenon<\/a>. To figure out what\u2019s going on with you, specifically, you\u2019re going to need the help of a doctor. And you\u2019ll be best off at that doctor appointment if you have some more data.<\/p>\n

    Keep track of three things for a few months\u2014when your sinuses are stuffy, runny, or otherwise affected, when you give your wife oral sex, and when the kids are sick. However, you want to track this (a list, a calendar app, or a paper planner) is fine, but you need to be meticulous, and you should log everything to the exact day and keep logging throughout the entire duration. Do this daily. Your memory, like everyone\u2019s, is fallible, and if you\u2019re trying to remember a week\u2019s worth of stuff, you\u2019re going to make mistakes. You might also see whether your wife is open to trying a dental dam, mostly to figure out whether that prevents the sinus symptoms, but there\u2019s also a chance that she really enjoys the sensation and it works for her in a way that raw oral doesn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

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    \n Jessica Stoya and Rich Juzwiak
    \n I Just Realized Where I Know the Man I\u2019m Dating From, So I Told Him. His Response Stunned Me.
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    When you\u2019ve got three to four months of information to look at, look at the information you\u2019ve gathered critically and evaluate whether the catalyst really does seem to be oral sex with your wife. If so, bring the general issue to your main doctor (family doctor, primary care physician, or similar). They\u2019ll be in the best position to refer you to whatever specialist you should see.<\/p>\n

    \u2014Jessica<\/p>\n

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