{"id":46656,"date":"2025-07-07T18:44:10","date_gmt":"2025-07-07T18:44:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/us\/46656\/"},"modified":"2025-07-07T18:44:10","modified_gmt":"2025-07-07T18:44:10","slug":"23-year-old-cybersecurity-grad-says-her-mom-has-0-saved-for-retirement-and-wants-support-but-dave-ramsey-warns-its-an-emotional-trap","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/us\/46656\/","title":{"rendered":"23-Year-Old Cybersecurity Grad Says Her Mom Has $0 Saved For Retirement and Wants Support, But Dave Ramsey Warns It’s An ‘Emotional Trap’"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Most new college grads<\/a> get a pat on the back and maybe a “we’re proud of you” dinner. But when 23-year-old Caitlin earned her master’s degree in cybersecurity, her mom had a different kind of message: You’re my retirement plan.<\/p>\n

“My mother informed me that she has zero saved for retirement and expects me to take care of her during her retirement years,” Caitlin told Dave Ramsey and George Kamel during an episode of “The Ramsey Show.”<\/a><\/p>\n

Caitlin, who lives in Memphis, Tennessee,\u00a0 and just entered a high-income field, said she doesn’t want to abandon her mom\u2014but needed advice on how to prepare financially.<\/p>\n

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Ramsey didn’t hold back.<\/p>\n

“What part of her childhood trauma has damaged her psychologically to make this ridiculous butt statement?” he asked bluntly.<\/p>\n

Her mother, just 46, works as a secretary making around $30,000 a year. Caitlin said she believes the problem is a lack of knowledge\u2014not malice<\/a>. But Ramsey still called it what it is.<\/p>\n

“For a 46-year-old to plan on retiring broke and be taken care of by their children is misbehavior in the American culture,” he said. “Now, in some cultures it would not be. But in North America, in Memphis, Tennessee, that’s misbehavior.”<\/p>\n

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Ramsey urged Caitlin to first focus on her own financial success.<\/p>\n

“You need to become wealthy, and you’re going to do that… You’re going to be a multi-millionaire by the time you’re 40,” he said. “So you’ll be able to write her checks. That does not mean you should, but mathematically you would be able to.”<\/p>\n

He then offered a more productive path: invite her mom to join her in taking Ramsey’s signature personal finance course. “Let’s get her believing, having some hope that she actually could have the dignity of controlling her own destination without depending upon her daughter,” he said.<\/p>\n

Kamel chimed in with a warning about what happens when guilt replaces boundaries.<\/p>\n

“If you’re not careful, there’s an emotional trap in this relationship,” he said. “Mom puts the pressure on you to do this. You love your mom. You don’t want to disappoint mom. So here’s what happens\u2014you do something that inherently you know you shouldn’t have to do… and in trying to please your mom, you end up resenting your mom.”<\/p>\n

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