One Tarrant County doctor has made caring for families like the Hewitts her focus, and parents travel from around the state to get the care she provides. The families grapple with a unique kind of grief as they prepare to welcome a child who will not survive.<\/p>\n
Difficult choices<\/p>\n
Twenty-one weeks into Laci\u2019s pregnancy, what began as a routine prenatal appointment became more urgent when it appeared from the ultrasound that her water had broken. The Hewitts were sent to the emergency room in an overwhelming turn of events.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou\u2019re just in survival mode when you get information that you\u2019re not expecting,\u201d Laci said.<\/p>\n
Medical professionals discovered that Laci\u2019s water had not broken. She never had amniotic fluid, the crucial mix of nutrients and other components that surrounds a baby in the womb, to begin with.<\/p>\n
Upon hearing that Laci\u2019s water had not broken, the Hewitts felt encouraged \u2014 this sounded like good news \u2014 but the doctor informed them that this was still a bad sign.\u00a0<\/p>\n
A few days later, the family was told their son had bilateral renal agenesis, a condition of an unknown cause that results in a baby\u2019s kidneys not developing.<\/p>\n
During the second half of pregnancy, a baby\u2019s kidneys produce most of the amniotic fluid in the womb, and their lungs cannot fully develop without it. Most babies with this condition, if they survive until birth, do not live more than a few hours afterward.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou\u2019re looking for any sign of hope, and there was none,\u201d Kyle said.<\/p>\n
The Hewitts were referred to Dr. Terri Weinman, a specialist in perinatal palliative care.\u00a0<\/p>\n
Palliative care aims to make a patient as comfortable as possible, and although it sometimes accompanies treatment to fight disease, it is not itself curative. The perinatal branch of palliative care focuses on the period of time from about halfway through pregnancy to one month of age.<\/p>\n
Weinman and a nurse practitioner with the same specialization helped the Hewitts come up with goals for their son\u2019s life. They walked Laci and Kyle through difficult decisions, from the plan for Kohen\u2019s birth to arrangements for his funeral.\u00a0<\/p>\n
\u201cThese conversations are lengthy and in-depth and emotional,\u201d Weinman said. \u201cWe have endless boxes of Kleenex, and sometimes we meet three, four, five times before the baby is born just to make sure we have everything just exactly the way the parents want it. But it\u2019s important.\u201d<\/p>\n
The choices the Hewitts had to make included weighing possible medical interventions for their son. Laci and Kyle were told that steps could be taken to prolong Kohen\u2019s life by a month at most, but that would mean multiple surgeries and tubes put into his body.<\/p>\n
Following one appointment, the Hewitts sobbed as they headed home.<\/p>\n
\u201cLaci,\u201d Kyle said, \u201cI don\u2019t want our son to be in pain. I don\u2019t want him to suffer.\u201d<\/p>\n
The Hewitts decided to focus instead on enjoying the time they would have with Kohen and making his life as pain-free as possible.<\/p>\n
\u20183 pounds of perfectness\u2019<\/p>\n
The Hewitts were surprised when Laci went into sporadic labor at 32 weeks. Kohen was born by cesarean section on Aug. 11, 2024.<\/p>\n
\u201cHe was 3 pounds of perfectness, and he had red hair,\u201d Laci said.<\/p>\n
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One way the Hewitts keep Kohen\u2019s memory alive is through photos of him, which they have displayed throughout their Glen Rose home. Kollins also has a playhouse in the family\u2019s backyard called \u201cthe blue jay nest.\u201d (Courtesy photo | Tara Peckham, Peckham Family Photography)<\/p>\n
The Hewitts had been afraid that Kohen would not survive birth, or that his lungs would be too weak to cry. But while talking to Laci in the C-section room, Kyle heard a baby\u2019s cry.<\/p>\n
\u201cWhose baby is that?\u201d he asked. Then, it hit him. \u201cOh, we\u2019re the only ones in here. That\u2019s him!\u201d<\/p>\n
Laci and Kyle introduced Kohen to their families and sang him songs. Kollins met her little brother, her \u201cBubbas.\u201d<\/p>\n
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Two-year-old Kollins hugs and kisses baby brother Kohen, whom she calls \u201cBubbas.\u201d The Hewitts pray together each night before eating dinner, and Laci said they always end their prayer with the phrase, \u201cand give Bubbas a big hug.\u201d (Courtesy photo | Tara Peckham, Peckham Family Photography)<\/p>\n
The Hewitts met every goal they had for Kohen\u2019s life.\u00a0<\/p>\n
\u201cWe were blessed,\u201d Kyle said. \u201cI know it\u2019s crazy to say that, but we were because so many families, maybe they lose the baby throughout the pregnancy, maybe he\u2019s stillborn, and he was beautiful.\u201d<\/p>\n
During Laci\u2019s pregnancy, the Hewitts were connected with Abel Speaks<\/a>, a nonprofit Christian ministry that supports families whose babies are facing life-limiting diagnoses. Through Abel Speaks, the Hewitts received keepsakes to remember their son by, including a Bible and impressions of his feet and hand.\u00a0<\/p>\n The nonprofit also sent a photographer who took professional photographs of Kohen and the family. Laci\u2019s sister helped assemble the pictures into a book.<\/p>\n \u201cThose photos are priceless,\u201d Kyle said. \u201cIf you asked me, \u2018Kyle, your house is on fire, you get a chance to grab one thing,\u2019 I\u2019m like, \u2018I\u2019m grabbing that book of my son\u2019s pictures.\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n After Kohen\u2019s death, the Hewitts had more time to say goodbye because they had access to a cooling cot, a device that preserves an infant\u2019s body after they die so their family can have more time with them.\u00a0<\/p>\n Kohen\u2019s early arrival meant Weinman was out of the country when he was born, but she soon returned and visited the family in the hospital where she was able to hold Kohen.<\/p>\n \u201cWhat I really loved about Dr. Weinman, too, is that she asked to hold him,\u201d Laci said. \u201cIt meant a lot to this mom that she valued the life that I carried.\u201d<\/p>\n Growing awareness<\/p>\n The Hewitts live in Glen Rose, a Somervell County town an hour from Fort Worth, and they are not alone in going the distance to see Weinman and other specialists in the area.\u00a0<\/p>\n \u201cThey weren\u2019t from this county, but they came to this county to deliver here on purpose because they wanted the expertise that we have to help them through their child\u2019s death, and that happens a lot,\u201d Weinman said.<\/p>\n Some of Weinman\u2019s patients travel from around Texas and Oklahoma seeking a higher level of care than hospitals in smaller towns can provide, but others travel from major cities like Austin. Some even pass through Dallas on their way from East Texas cities like Tyler.\u00a0<\/p>\n Weinman does not know exactly how many medical providers in Texas focus specifically on the perinatal branch of palliative care, but she said there are not many. Still, awareness is growing, both within the medical community and outside of it.<\/p>\n The American Board of Pediatrics did not offer a certification in palliative medicine until 2008, and when Weinman earned hers in 2010, she was one of only 18 doctors nationwide to hold board certifications in both neonatal-perinatal medicine and pediatric palliative medicine. Two fellowship programs now exist in the U.S. to educate doctors about perinatal palliative care specifically, she said.<\/p>\n The specialty has garnered attention from the Texas Legislature.\u00a0<\/p>\n The Perinatal Palliative Care Act<\/a> passed during spring 2025 and will require that doctors inform patients whose babies have life-threatening diagnoses that this kind of care is available to them. It takes effect Sept. 1, 2025.<\/p>\n Under the law, the Texas Health and Human Services Commission will create informational materials and a list of perinatal palliative care providers, and doctors must distribute these materials to patients at the time of diagnosis.<\/p>\n Kelly Hancock, a North Richland Hills Republican, carried the bill<\/a> in the Senate. The law says that more babies with life-threatening diagnoses will be born than would have been before the state\u2019s abortion ban.<\/p>\n Moving forward<\/p>\n Through Abel Speaks, the Hewitts were connected with a mentor couple who had also experienced the death of an infant son. They now want to offer the same support to others.<\/p>\n \u201cWe have felt so much love and joy even in the midst of sorrow, and that\u2019s not everyone\u2019s story,\u201d Laci said.<\/p>\n Parents tell Weinman they want to support others going through the same thing, and she introduces families with their permission. She also stays in touch with some of the families she treats and offers support herself.<\/p>\n \u201cI always try to go to the funerals, if I can,\u201d Weinman said. \u201cJust let them know that somebody really cares. It just matters.\u201d<\/p>\n Weinman\u2019s job takes a toll, and she admits that she is not great at coping with it, but she said she takes better care of herself than she used to.\u00a0<\/p>\n When she first began to focus on this work, she went three years without a vacation day before taking a few days off at the insistence of a colleague. After she returned, she realized her earlier pace was not sustainable.\u00a0<\/p>\n \u201cIf you don\u2019t fill your own cup, how can you help anybody else?\u201d Weinman said.<\/p>\n Now, she uses her vacation time. She also leans on her husband, friends, co-workers and her Christian faith. Knowing that her work makes a difference for families like the Hewitts helps, too.<\/p>\n \u201cEven though they lost their son, they lost their son in a way that felt right to them, and that brings me peace knowing that even though I couldn\u2019t take away their problem, I could at least walk with them through it,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n McKinnon Rice is a reporting fellow for the Fort Worth Report. Contact her at mckinnon.rice@fortworthreport.org.\u00a0<\/p>\n At the Fort Worth Report, news decisions are made independently of our board members and financial supporters. Read more about our editorial independence policy here<\/a>.<\/p>\n \n\tRelated\n<\/p>\n Fort Worth Report is certified by the Journalism Trust Initiative<\/a> for adhering to standards for ethical journalism.<\/p>\n Republish This Story<\/p>\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/us\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/DSC_5785.jpeg\")
Kollins, now 3, kisses newborn Kohen. Weinman encourages her patients to record their child\u2019s heartbeat, and the Hewitts placed a recording of Kohen\u2019s inside a stuffed green dinosaur that plays the sound when squeezed. (Courtesy photo | Tara Peckham, Peckham Family Photography)<\/p>\n
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