\t\t\t\t\tOverview: San Diego Pride recognition<\/p>\n
For the past three decades, they have lived in a house in University Heights with separate closets but a shared bed.\u00a0<\/p>\n
Julie Hoffman and Summer White are being recognized for their inspiring relationship at this year\u2019s San Diego Pride <\/a>festivities \u2013 which coincides with the 40th anniversary of when they first got together on June 8, 1985.<\/p>\n The two were at lesbian bar Calamities after a Pride Parade, back when San Diego still held it in June, when Hoffman began looking at White across the room. <\/p>\n A jealous acquaintance tried to talk her out of approaching White.\u00a0<\/p>\n Hoffman said, \u201cShe started reading me all these things about Summer that she thought was gonna turn me off. And everything she said, it\u2019s like, \u2018I like that. I like that. I like that too.\u2019 So (White) comes over to me and she says, \u2018Is she bothering you?\u2019 I said, \u2018Yeah.\u2019 (Summer) gave me a big old kiss. She said, \u2018You want to go to my house?\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n The two left together and have been dating ever since.\u00a0<\/p>\n Fulfilling the U-Haul stereotype<\/a> of many lesbian couples, they moved in together three weeks later.\u00a0<\/p>\n White described Hoffman as the light of her life while Hoffman said of her partner, \u201cI cannot imagine my life without Summer. She completes every piece of me absolutely. I\u2019m extremely lucky to have found somebody that tolerates me.\u201d<\/p>\n Part of what makes their relationship work, Hoffman said, is having bad habits align.\u00a0<\/p>\n Some might only look to the good, but not fighting about bad habits can be more important, she said.\u00a0<\/p>\n \u201cWe shared a checkbook and money since the day we met, but she has her drawers and spaces in the house, and I have mine. And mine are gorgeous and organized, and hers are hers,\u201d Hoffman said.\u00a0<\/p>\n For the past three decades, they have lived in a house in University Heights with separate closets but a shared bed.\u00a0<\/p>\n Passion for volunteering\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n In addition to years as season ticket holders for the Chargers<\/a>, they spent their time with such organizations as the gay rodeo, the Imperial Court and San Diego Leather Girls, but most of all volunteering.\u00a0<\/p>\n \u201cOur biggest thing and passion that we do has always been volunteering. Since we got together right before the AIDS crisis, by 1988 there was, unfortunately, a need for volunteering, and so we really jumped on that,\u201d White said. Since she is chronically ill with lupus, volunteering also gives her flexibility that a job wouldn\u2019t.\u00a0<\/p>\n Hoffman worked as an RN in HIV care for 30 years.\u00a0<\/p>\n