{"id":86386,"date":"2025-07-23T16:41:11","date_gmt":"2025-07-23T16:41:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/us\/86386\/"},"modified":"2025-07-23T16:41:11","modified_gmt":"2025-07-23T16:41:11","slug":"if-i-give-my-friend-tickets-to-the-ballgame-should-he-tell-me-if-he-cant-use-them-im-not-ok-with-what-he-really-did","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/us\/86386\/","title":{"rendered":"If I give my friend tickets to the ballgame, should he tell me if he can’t use them? I’m not OK with what he really did."},"content":{"rendered":"

Pay Dirt is Slate\u2019s money advice column. Have a question? <\/strong>Send it to Kristin and Ilyce here<\/strong><\/a>. (It\u2019s anonymous!)<\/strong><\/p>\n

Dear Pay Dirt,<\/strong><\/p>\n

I have season tickets to a beloved baseball franchise. My wife, my best friend, and I saved up for them, knowing we\u2019d be able to freely give some away to friends and family and sell the rest to recoup some of our costs.<\/p>\n

My pal \u201cJack\u201d is a big fan. We know each other through a club and see each other monthly at meetings. I was more than happy to throw Jack tickets to some games.<\/p>\n

Well, I found out that of the eight games Jack had \u201cattended,\u201d he\u2019d only actually gone to one.<\/p>\n

He\u2019d sold the tickets to the other seven games! Every time I have asked how he enjoyed the game, he\u2019s gushed about how much fun he\u2019s had. So, lying to my face! I never expressly told Jack that he couldn\u2019t sell our tickets because it seemed\u2026obvious? He clearly knows I wouldn\u2019t be cool with it because he lied to me about it.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m pretty pissed. If I\u2019d known he was going to sell them, I\u2019d have given the tickets to somebody else\u2014or sold them myself. The next club meeting is coming up, and I know he\u2019ll ask if we have any games coming up. I simultaneously wanna confront him and be avoidant and just deny him more tickets without explanation.<\/p>\n

\u2014Baseball Blues<\/p>\n

Dear Baseball Blues,<\/strong><\/p>\n

Wow, Jack has some nerve! You should absolutely confront him about this and give him the opportunity to make things right.<\/p>\n

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    I guess technically they were his tickets to do with what he wished\u2014and that might be the argument he makes\u2014but friendships aren\u2019t built on technicalities, and he knew this was wrong. I\u2019m not sure how you found out he lied, but I\u2019d let him know you know what\u2019s been going on (and how you found out) without explicitly calling him a liar. Give him a chance to come clean and, ideally, offer you some compensation for the tickets he sold.<\/p>\n

    On the other hand, Jack has already shown he\u2019s comfortable lying repeatedly, so expecting him to suddenly become honest and offer to pay back money is probably overly optimistic. But the next time he asks for a ticket, you could tell him something along the lines of: \u201cHey, I found out you\u2019ve been selling most of the tickets I\u2019ve given you instead of going to the games. I give those tickets away because I want people to enjoy the experience, not to help them make money. I won\u2019t be able to offer you any more.\u201d<\/p>\n

    The bottom line is, you should distance yourself from Jack. This seems to be a pretty bright red flag that he isn\u2019t someone you can be generous with, and it sounds like you enjoy being generous with your friends. He might be a fun guy to have a beer with at a game, but ultimately, I\u2019d write this off as an expensive lesson about Jack\u2019s character. You deserve a better pal.<\/p>\n

    \u2014Kristin<\/p>\n

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