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Nobody should have to choose between their own wellbeing and their sibling\u2019s future, but that\u2019s the decision sitting in front of the woman in this story.<\/p>\n
Her older sibling has schizophrenia<\/a> and has never been able to live independently. After their grandmother could no longer handle his care, he was moved into a behavioral home.<\/p>\n Now the legal system is asking if she wants to become his guardian, because if she doesn\u2019t, the state takes over.<\/p>\n Their relationship has never been easy. Years of managing his condition have caused significant stress, and she\u2019s honest about the fact that she doesn\u2019t feel capable of being in charge of someone else\u2019s life decisions.<\/p>\n But walking away comes with its own kind of weight, and she can\u2019t shake the feeling that saying no makes her a bad sister.<\/p>\n Keep reading for the full story.<\/p>\n Me (30F) and my brother (34M)\u2019s dad passed away in February leaving us without parents.<\/p>\n My brother has schizophrenia and cannot live by himself and was living with my grandma and is no longer able to live with her so he was placed in a behavioral home.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n This woman is soon faced with a difficult decision.<\/p>\n As of recently I\u2019ve had the option to become his legal guardian, which if I don\u2019t he will become a ward of the state.<\/p>\n I love him but don\u2019t wanna dictate my life to him any longer and don\u2019t feel fit to be in charge\/make decisions for him, yet<\/p>\n I also don\u2019t want him to end up in a bad place.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n Looking back, her brother has made a lot of trouble, both for himself and for the family.<\/p>\n He barely would be able to go outside and communicate with other people due to him being aggressive or weird towards other people.<\/p>\n He\u2019s even banned from the school by the house and the FBI has been at the house he lived at for posts he\u2019s made online.<\/p>\n The place he\u2019s at now he actually gets to be with other people and communicate freely which he hasn\u2019t had the chance to do.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n Besides, the two really aren\u2019t even that close.<\/p>\n We don\u2019t have the best relationship and he has been very difficult to manage over the years of my life causing much stress to everyone involved.<\/p>\n AITA for not stepping up for him?<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n If you enjoyed this story, check out this post<\/a> about a middle schooler who was totally frazzled after being left to babysit alone for 3-plus hours, and swears she\u2019s never doing it again.<\/p>\n It\u2019s never easy to face a seemingly impossible choice like this one.<\/p>\n This woman should recognize the full responsibility of guardianship, especially for someone like her sibling.<\/p>\n This fellow caretaker stresses just how exhausting it can be.<\/p>\n Never Miss a Story<\/p>\n Sign up to get our BEST stories of the week straight to your inbox.<\/p>\n There\u2019s a reason why professionals are paid to look after people like this.<\/p>\n This commenter has a lot of empathy for this woman.<\/p>\n Everyone in this situation has already been pushed past their capacity.<\/p>\n Their parents are gone, their grandmother couldn\u2019t continue, and now the question falls to a woman who has spent years managing a relationship that has cost her peace, stability, and emotional bandwidth she\u2019ll never get back.<\/p>\n Her brother needs consistent professional care, financial stability, and a support system built for his specific condition. If she can\u2019t provide those things, and she\u2019s saying clearly that she can\u2019t, then the state option isn\u2019t a failure. It might be the most responsible outcome for both of them.<\/p>\n She\u2019s not refusing because she doesn\u2019t care. She\u2019s refusing because she knows what this costs, and she\u2019s honest enough to say she can\u2019t pay it.<\/p>\n If you enjoyed this story, check out this post<\/a> about a friend group that shattered over one couple wanting to bring their kids along on a long-standing annual trip.<\/p>\n \t\t\t\t\t
Benjamin Cottrell | Assistant Editor, Internet Culture<\/p>\n Benjamin Cottrell is an Assistant Editor and contributing writer at TwistedSifter, specializing in internet culture, viral social dynamics, and the moral complexities of online communities. He brings a highly analytical, editorial voice to his reporting on workplace conflicts, malicious compliance, and interpersonal drama, with a specific focus on nuanced stories that lack an obvious villain.<\/p>\n As a published author of rhetorical criticism, Benjamin leverages his academic background in human communication to dissect and elevate viral social media threads. Instead of simply summarizing events, he provides readers with balanced, deep-dive commentary into why the internet reacts the way it does. In addition to his cultural reporting, he is an experienced fine art photography essayist and video game reviewer.<\/p>\n When he isn\u2019t analyzing the latest viral debates, Benjamin is usually chipping away at his extensive video game backlog, hunting down the best new restaurants, or out exploring the city with a camera in hand.<\/p>\n Connect with Benjamin on Instagram<\/a> and read more of his essays on Substack<\/a>.<\/p>\n \n\t\tCategories: Family & Relationships<\/a>, Life & Drama<\/a>\t\t \t\t\t\t\t\n
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