{"id":92902,"date":"2025-07-26T02:02:11","date_gmt":"2025-07-26T02:02:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/us\/92902\/"},"modified":"2025-07-26T02:02:11","modified_gmt":"2025-07-26T02:02:11","slug":"dear-annie-i-thought-id-feel-less-of-a-man-for-seeking-help-for-depression-boy-was-i-wrong","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.europesays.com\/us\/92902\/","title":{"rendered":"Dear Annie: I thought I\u2019d feel less of a man for seeking help for depression. Boy, was I wrong"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"article__paragraph article__paragraph--left\" id=\"GVCVYXY2QZAEBCPQSIIQH7JFTA\">This column originally ran in 2022. <\/p>\n<p class=\"article__paragraph article__paragraph--left\" id=\"OMDDXMTIFRA65G2FT2TTBTCHIU\"> Dear Annie: I wanted to take a moment to tell my story about my struggle with mental illness, specifically depression and anxiety. I\u2019m a 48-year-old man who has suffered and struggled with mental illness since I was 13. I\u2019ve always felt this was taboo and that men just weren\u2019t supposed to talk about it or express their hardships. I sought help over the years, but it was tough. I would feel like less of a man for doing so, like men are supposed to be strong and tough, and never cry, but boy, was I wrong.<\/p>\n<p class=\"article__paragraph article__paragraph--left\" id=\"3X4NEPKJYJBGDLMM2O7EQAMU6Y\"> I finally opened up to my primary care doctor a few years ago and spilled my guts to her about my suffering and struggles, and I\u2019m glad I did. She came up with a treatment plan. I took a DNA test that told her which psychiatric meds would be compatible with my body and which ones wouldn\u2019t. Lo and behold, after the second try with meds, I finally found the right combination that\u2019s been successful for me.<\/p>\n<p class=\"article__paragraph article__paragraph--left\" id=\"JCACR2V3O5GM3NSD36T3B2KR4U\"> My depression is at the point where it\u2019s very manageable, as is my anxiety. I finally feel like myself and that there\u2019s hope for me, and for the first time in decades, it feels great to be alive. <\/p>\n<p class=\"article__paragraph article__paragraph--left\" id=\"UPQULJOVDVALTAJLMX56YMDN4E\">Annie, I want to let men know, and women, too, that there is help out there for them and to never ever give up. I never thought I would ever feel sane again, and I do now, thanks to being vulnerable and opening up to my doctor. It was so worth it, and I will never regret opening up. Thank you for hearing my story, and again, to anyone suffering, never give up. There is always hope. &#8212; Success Story<\/p>\n<p class=\"article__paragraph article__paragraph--left\" id=\"U6PIKFDDKRHFFIQSZ7MGVCY7PM\"> Dear Success Story: What a beautiful story! And how right you are &#8212; there is always hope, no matter how dark things may seem. One of the hardest things we can do is reach out and ask for help when we are struggling. You should be so proud that you did!<\/p>\n<p class=\"article__paragraph article__paragraph--left\" id=\"MIXM7LBRCNATFD7ALC4MSAEAKI\"> Whether it be trying medication, attending a support group or getting into \u201ctalking cure\u201d therapy, there are many ways to cope with depression and anxiety. Kudos to you for having the courage to speak up, be vulnerable and put your trust in someone else to help you get where you are today.<\/p>\n<p class=\"article__paragraph article__paragraph--left\" id=\"VLL3HM37INFXZNYZUKYN7WJJCY\">Send your questions for Annie Lane to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.oregonlive.com\/entertainment\/2025\/07\/mailto:dearannie@creators.com\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">dearannie@creators.com<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p class=\"article__paragraph article__paragraph--left\" id=\"6ECHFSPXGNGLHONECDZRWKCEIY\">COPYRIGHT 2023 <a href=\"http:\/\/creators.com\/\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">CREATORS.COM<\/a><\/p>\n<p>If you purchase a product or register for an account through a link on our site, we may receive compensation. 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